How many times do I have to forgive my brother? One time, three times,seven times? Let’s look at the answer Jesus gives Peter so that we know what Jesus thinks about resentment and forgiveness.
Do you have a grudge against someone? Is there someone you don’t want to forgive? Is there an offense that still bothers your being?
How much do you love the one who has offended you? It is a good question to know how much you love God. When I am not capable of forgiving is because evil is nesting in my heart.
Forgiveness is not a natural instinct, it is an act of obedience to God. When I discover that God has forgiven me, I am under the obligation to do the same with those who have offended me. The etymology of the word forgive is the root FOR plus the verb GIVE. The root FOR means completely; then the verb forgive means to give completely. The best example of this meaning is the parable that Jesus proposes about this king who was able to forgive the debt of 10.000 talent (164 t of gold) to a servant who beg him.
Let us remember that salvation is conditional like the prayer of our Father. I can only pray the Our Father if I am able to forgive my brother: “Forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us”. In the same way, if I am not able to forgive all those who have offended me. I cannot pretend that God forgives my faults, if I have not been able to forgive the faults that others have done to me. This is what happened to the forgiven servant in the Gospel who was not able to forgive the faults of the second servant. And the king then took away the forgiveness he had given him and forced him to pay all the previous debt.